Please enjoy this short video episode of Coffee Break with John (CBWJ).
13-CBWJ-Effectively Dealing with Social Distancing
11-CBWJ-Using Tactical Empathy to Build Rapport
Please enjoy this short video episode of Coffee Break with John (CBWJ).
10-CBWJ-Introverts and Extroverts: How They Handle Social Distancing
Please enjoy this short video episode of Coffee Break with John (CBWJ).
07-CBWJ-Resiliency is a Learnable Skill
Resiliency has always been a valuable skill. Lately it is revealing itself as a critical skill. In his seminal work on the topic of resiliency, Al Siebert, PhD describes resiliency as the ability to:
- Cope with high levels of ongoing disruptive change;
- Sustain good health and energy when under constant pressure;
- Bounce back easily from setbacks;
- Overcome adversities;
- Change to a new way of working and living when an old way is no longer possible; and
- Do all this without acting in dysfunctional or harmful ways.
Resiliency is a learnable skill. Sure, some people are naturally more resilient than others. Some people learn resiliency without ever formally studying it, but some people just accept a lack of resiliency as a permanent state of being.
Resiliency is actually not something you have. Resiliency is something you DO. Stay tuned for more in-depth discussions and training on the topic of resiliency.
05-CBWJ-Circle of Control vs Concern
People often spend time and energy worrying about things they have no control over. It’s a natural reaction for our brains to think through worst case scenarios. It’s a built-in defense mechanism leftover from the days when our biggest concern was not getting eaten by a saber-toothed tiger, so we were always on high alert. But, being on high alert 24/7 is what leads to PTSD, so identifying and separating where we put our energy is critical.
Our circle of concern includes things we care about, but can’t control. It’s important to be aware of things in this sphere, but we need to focus more on the things within our circle of control.
04-CBWJ-Managing Uncertainty and Fear-Part 2/2
Certainty is a primary human need and right now, most people are dealing with tremendous uncertainty. This leads to fear and other negative emotions. Everyone interprets stimulus differently, but the process for how we process stimuli is the same for everyone. We receive some stimuli from the outside world, we think about it and attach meaning to it based on our own individual life experiences. This is why people’s perceptions of the same stimuli can be very different from person to person. The meaning we attach to things then leads to emotions, which drive behaviors. Behaviors inevitably have some results. The results we get depend on how we manage this process I just described. Understand the process and you can better manage your behavior and results.
03-CBWJ-Managing Uncertainty and Fear-Part 1/2
Certainty is a primary human need and right now, most people are dealing with tremendous uncertainty. This leads to fear and other negative emotions. Everyone interprets stimulus differently, but the process for how we process stimuli is the same for everyone. We receive some stimuli from the outside world, we think about it and attach meaning to it based on our own individual life experiences. This is why people’s perceptions of the same stimuli can be very different from person to person. The meaning we attach to things then leads to emotions, which drive behaviors. Behaviors inevitably have some results. The results we get depend on how we manage this process I just described. Understand the process and you can better manage your behavior and results.
Good News
If you don’t believe that Google has manipulated their own search algorithms to serve up what they most want us to see, try doing a search for good news. I did. You really can’t make this shit up.
Google’s idea of good news starts with a hurricane, followed by some hyperbolic crap about Kavanaugh and the last of their top three results is an article about a limousine crash that killed 20 people.
It’s not fake news folks. Google and every other company involved in the media and technology shows us what they want us to see. It seems that finding good news is now harder than ever.
It’s up to you what you choose to read, right? There is plenty of good news out there, you just have to look for it, so I thought I’d help make that search easier.